Why people are angry and cannot detect why they are so is the only thing that I’ve been thinking about it and I really concerned about it.
Why they are stymied in an issue that is not really important even to think about it? for instance: when they are happy some unforeseen problems make them angry that even they don’t know why they are so.
What thing makes them unhappy? What is the real reason behind this? or any other thing that we can see it into their matrimonial relationships, like challenging with their wives/husbands on some trifle things and whatever that we can see it in every aspect of our lives.
But the only thing that I perceived is not to pretend the bad situation as a good one, whereas it should be coping by solve every one of problems through problem focus technique.
Let me explain it in a way that everyone can understand it comprehensively and completely:
Whenever you got angry, try not to evade it by changing your mind from the bad situation where you are into the good place that helps you to forget it temporarily.
Probably the only solution that comes in our mind and rescues us from making bad decision on a fit of rage is to solve it through Emotion-Focus. For example when we could not pass the final we exacerbate the situation by challenging everything even God (SWT) and decide to forget it by not to think about it anymore, whereas it will comes in our mind latter and we must do it again, whereas it takes two energy to be solved: in one hand for the first time when we think that we have no chance to revise it we decide to conceal it and evade bad situation where we are and feel we are not angry, it is not really important, and … finally we decide to forget it as soon as possible, in the other hand when it is happen for the next time we do the same again.
Anyway the best way of coping every problem is to solve it by Problem-Focus. Whenever we are into the situation we should think why this thing happened to me, what real reason is behind this, and … after these question which is asked by ourselves now track the best solution by our experiences and also giving the expert’s advises and consultations.