I heard someone said : " I deserved it" . It´been a long while ,that as a MOther and wife you keep doing "things for". Some times they appreciate , some times don´t. And then it becomes a habit to just be looking what else to do for people in the family. And then all of a sudden, there is an opportunity of getting something, or doing something , just for you, immediately "guilt arrives". Why, why can´t we give ourselves something that we want, when there has been some years of doing things for others?
Reading here in red Room, about sacrifice , again (a little guilt comes to me) when I am writting about the opposite. But I think it is very important to do things for ourselves. To enjoy, to say NO to do things one doesn´t want to do, even thou you might hurt people , to stay at home maybe doing "nothing" while family is expecting you to go to that special event. Why not? I will say YES , we have to , we deserved to , it´s part of learning to be happy in this life. Although I have to recognize , the pleasure of giving, is maybe a little more enjoyable and we should do both.