Do something Special
-What do you mean you can´t see them? I know I have had them all my life,
everybody has them , what , I am a martian ?
He went to get a new passport and even thow someone help him push his finger over the small window made specially to get “ fingerprints” , it just didn´t appear.
- Are you working with chemical fluids ?
- No , he said.
So then the answer was that since he is very old, his fingerprints just begin to disappear . So they decided to make this special passport without fingerprints.
This week, he also went to see an apartment where only old people lived. The manager recibed Chalo & Paty in a beautiful office and they talked about rent, lunch hours, etc. Then, he showed them the directory of the people who lived in the 50 small apartments . Chalo decided to read each name out loud to see if they knew anybody.
So they started reading:
Mr. John & Susan …….. And the manager would said – “ dead”.
Alicia ……………. – “dead”.
Stan & Tracy….. – Stan passed away last week, so there is just Tracy
Ando so on, until the manager was embarrassed because he hadn´t updated the list in the past month.
- By what you are saying, it feels, like if we are moving to this place just before we move to the next place , which by the way is free, has a very intense light, and everyone seems to be very , very happy, Chalo said.
-How much of a difficult life one must have , to get to the point in which no matter what you do, or where you go , it seems that everything reminds you that you are at the end of the road. Even when you are with people, they look at me and put this special face of "Oh, look an old man” , “how sweet”.
Chalo decided that since it was NOT the end, he had to do something really , really exiting. But what?
He talked to Paty and asked her if she would like todo so do something speciall for what he call it , "A Special day"?
- Are you crazy? , Paty said. No way, let me see my tv programs, weave a while and have my naps. That´s all I want.
So Chalo decided to do something different, that no other old man had ever, ever done.
He called the schools around the area where he lived, and offered to go “everyday to primary schools” , one different classroom everyday.
The idea was this: he would go to a school, to 1º grade, and be in a classroom for that day. That special day, kids would have to share with Chalo everything, beginning with a chair, which had to be special because he has trouble simply sitting down. Then in a special moment , Chalo would pass to the front to tell the kids, what he did everyday , and how much trouble it was to take a shower, to brush your teeth which by the way he had to take out so he can brush them with his toothbrush, to go to the bathroom at least 10 times per day, how he likes to read, but sometimes he realized he fell asleep while reading , just like that , sitting in his chair (no need for a bed). How he had to ask people to repeat things, because he couldn´t listen as he used to , or because he forgot you had alreday told him.
So Chalo pass to the front of the class and started telling the kids what he had in his mind:
- Good morning friends…… let me tell you “friends” because I need you to be my friends , listen to me and with what I am going to tell you pass it on to your other friends, now and in the future. You have no idea how it is to be “so alive” during a lot of years, go everywhere , do everything you like to do, sports, marry, have kids, anyway a hole life, and all of a sudden (you have no idea how quickly). .“you are old”
¿ How did it happen so , so quickly. Anyway, you may accept a lot of things like: you can no longer play tennis, because your legs don´t obey you as they used to, you want to run , but it hurts . You want to talk to your friends but a lot of memories are gone. You want to go out to places at night , but sleep beats you. But the most difficult of all things is that you have this beautiful relationship with your kids, your family, and they think that since you are old, it is ok to have you in a special place for old people and that somebody will take care of you. ¿Can you imagine the loneliness? ¿can you imagine if all of a sudden your parents would put you in a “home for kids” and visit you only so very often maybe once a month.
That is why I am here, to tell you , to be a friend to old people,to be close to old people , to be interested in what he has to say (no matter if they repeat and repeat the same thing over and over again) . Give them love, give them time , give them hugs. Let me tell you “ we need that very much” . Please pass sit on so that by the time you are old, your kids, family , friends will do that for you too -.