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Living through difficult times: three things

I'm living through difficult times right now. Don't worry, I'm OK. But I've been thinking about how we can approach the stuff that life throws at us that we'd rather not catch. Duck! Run away!

I'm thinking about three things this morning. The obstacle is the path. Today is a good day. And what comes is a gift.
Ezra Bayda reminds us in his books that we often get frustrated by the things that 'get in the way' of our path. This could be the tedium of doing the washing up, or a crisis that prevents us from getting on with what we think we SHOULD be doing. He tells us that these obstacles ARE the path. They are the things life is made of. They are the things we learn from, the things we can practice with. It's a matter of shifting our perspective.
The second thing is what my friend said to me at the weekend. She's also going through difficult times, and when I saw her she'd just had some bad news. I said something about how awful she must be feeling, and she said, 'Well, today is a good day'. How easily we forget to take one day (one minute) at a time.
The third thing is something I read in a Buddhist magazine - a quote by Reverend Master Daishin. He said, "What comes is a gift as it shows us what we need to offer." This last word wasn't what I expected, and it took me by suprise. What we need to OFFER? Isn't this about me?!
In the long run, the things we learn help us to help others. We're all in the same boat, after all. There's something about the idea of making an offering that gives me comfort.
These thoughts are still a little jumbled, but I hope you can find something in them. My small offering.

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Hi, fiona-- I read this

Hi, fiona--

I read this blog, and it inspired my blog for today. thank you for writing this. It was the right read at the right time.



Jessica Barksdale Inclan

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Thank you Jessica

I'm so pleased. Funny how the right thing can come along just at the right time sometimes!

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Hi Fiona

I appreciate you sharing your thoughts like this. This really resonates with how I feel about the paths we take in life. I believe that the obstacles are the path as well. I feel that many, if not most people, dwell on the obstacle itself instead of seeing it as an actual part of the path in life itself, extending the period that they have to deal with it. At the same time, it could be said that the 'dwelling' is also part of their path too, better still if they learn from it.

Like many people, I've gone through my fair share of highs and lows in life. I treasure all of it even though, for example, I've made countless awful mistakes throughout my life, been homeless twice and we've had neighbours who tried to kill us, harass and abuse us (amongst other things over several years!). If someone ever asks me if I wish things had been different, I would say no, because I am the sum of my experiences and am glad for the person I have become and am hopefully growing into. I have learned a lot and hopefully this means I have a lot to share too. Carpe diem. Seize the day.

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Thanks Ryoma - yes - the most difficult stuff is often where the richest learning arises - not that it always feels like that at the time!!

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Oh yes, that's so true, so

Oh yes, that's so true, so very true indeed. There's a certain feeling of calm I feel though, knowing that even through the worst times that it is all part of the journey. It is what it is, life, and our experiences let us grow into something more if we allow it imho. :)