I am not too sure what friends really mean...I think a passing smile, a fraction of a glance, a polite voice over the phone by strangers is less cumbersome to deal with.
At least there is no exchange of unspoken guarantees and promises of no expiry dates like all sturdy friendships demand.
I have resisted several friendships because I was not sure the person was genuine or if I felt that I would not be able to give my time and space. I am happy enough with those fleeting moments connecting with strangers who do not even have to say goodbye.
A friend who comes and goes is as much a stranger...a friend who takes another for granted is behaving in a strange fashion...a friend who has to keep several considerations in mind to keep up the friendship is a stranger...a friend who you are close to physically but cannot share things with is a stranger...a friend who inhabits your mind but not your heart is a stranger...a friend you feel for but can do nothing about is a stranger...
There is a world of friends and there is a world of strangers...and there is a world of choices we have to make and those that others make for us.
Often we get hurt because we cannot tell the two apart. Sometimes, one takes time out to sort out the confusion. For example, I know I am committed to certain things...I am willing to go half way. The question gets complicated when after reaching the halfway mark you find you have either lost your way or the point you are at is the same where you started.
Nothing can exist in isolation. I now let life do the talking for me. I shall go where Destiny takes me. It is anyway a better judge than I am.