In the wake of the discussion about Rihanna's decision to continue her relationship with Chris Brown after he physically abused her (taking place in the Red Room several days ago on Heather Catherine Hogan's, Ellen Sheeley's, and my blogs), I felt compelled to post a link to this NYTimes article that examines the attitudes towards dating violence and domestic abuse held by today's generation of teenagers. I'm sure I'm not the only one here who will be troubled (if not surprised) by the article's findings. What can we do -- besides teaching the children in our own families not to accept, condone, or offer violence -- to change the social perception among younger people that domestic abuse and dating violence is normal, "no big deal"?
I think one answer lies in the statement made by the young woman, Danielle Shores, quoted toward the end of the article. She said the matter was blown out of proportion because the parties involved are famous; when a similar thing happened to her best friend, she reports, there was no outrage.
Why not??? Can we bring the concern we have about this problem to the local level? Make it tangible for the young women (and not-as-young women) who are confronting situations like Rihanna's? If we think it is a "big deal," we have to act like it, and not only when it makes the cover of pop culture magazines.