Can you be both Gay and Christian at the same time?
The answer is both yes and no.
I'm not being evasive or politically correct. This is a complex issue and an accurate answer depends on the perspective you're looking at it from. Let me explain.
Our first perspective is looking at the question if the person is already a Christian and we ask:
Can someone be Gay and Christian at the same time? Then the answer is yes!
Can you be a Christian and be a thief at the same time? Many Christians refuse to pay their Tithes and give Offerings to God and God condemns this in the book of Malachi chapter 3 verse 8 calling them "Robbers."
Can a Christian be a Liar? Some Christians habitually lie on their Tax Return Forms every year or practice lying as part of their job - The Receptionist who says her boss is not in, knowing full well he's seated right in his office.
Can you be a Christian and a Fornicator? Some Christians practice pre-marital sex as though God has changed his laws to suit this 21st century hedonistic culture.
What's my point?
Being born again, which is to become a Christian is only 1/3 of your journey of salvation.
After the born again experience the Bible teaches us that we now have to work out our salvation with fear and trembling.
Working out your salvation means building Christian character day by day through the decisions you make and how much you're willing to die to your own selfish pleasures in order to honor God.
Each of the examples above represents someone who's decided to receive the first part of salvation but has not proceeded to work on the second part.
They are contented to become born again and have their spirits transformed but not do the necessary work to have their soul saved also.
There are three levels of salvation; the salvation of the spirit - Justification; the salvation of soul - Sanctification, and the salvation of body - Glorification. (See Romans 8:30 & 1st Corinthians 6:11)
After you experience justification through being born again your spirit is now re-created in the image of God and you have the nature of God on the inside of you. You are saved and on your way to Heaven and nothing can change that. It's a permanent work done by God.
The first part of your salvation journey is over, now here comes part two.
God says you have to begin doing something for yourself. You have to start saving your own soul.
This may sound contrary until you understand that your soul and your mind are one and the same thing.
The Hebrew word for soul in Genesis chapter 2 verse 7 is "Nephesh" meaning "Mind or Mental Creature" the Greek word for soul is "Psuche" from which we get "Psychic and Psychology" both pertaining to the mind.
So, "saving your soul" and "renewing your mind" is exactly the same concept and the Bible says a lot about renewing your mind. This is the second level of salvation called sanctification - separation from the seduction of Sin.
As a matter of fact James says, "...receive with meekness the engrafted word, which is able to save your souls." (Jam 1:21) James was speaking to Christians - People who already had their spirits saved by being born again! And he was telling them they needed to do something to save their souls.
So, can someone be a Christian and not walk according to the truth of the word of God? Yes!
Can someone be a Christian and not live according to the principles of the kingdom of God? Yes!
Can someone be a Christian and adopt a Gay lifestyle at the same time? Yes!
I know a man of God who preached and taught the word of God with power and revelation and who backslid and practiced homosexuality for some time before he repented and turned again to the Lord. For a time he was both Gay and Christian.
Can someone be Gay and Christian at the same time? Yes they can!
Did he lose his salvation while being Gay and then regain it after? Of course not! You can't jump in and out of being born of God. If you're a son of God you are a son permanently.
Salvation is eternal! There's no going back and forth with the recreation of your spirit, once it's done it's done forever. You may certainly go in and out of fellowship with God but never in and out of relationship with Him.
So, can you be a Christian and practice a Gay lifestyle? As wrong and perverted as this is, yes you can.
The explanation given above is valid if we look at the question from the first perspective, which is, you're already a Christian and you backslide into a homosexual lifestyle. Yes, this is possible.
As an addendum to this line of reasoning let me explain that this scenario may result from someone being a homosexual before becoming born again but never getting specific deliverance from the spirits of homosexuality and sexual perversion which resurfaced and attacked him during a period of weakness in his life.
This happens all the time with Christians who were living in sexual bondage or some other type of perverted lifestyle like Drugs or the Occult, before getting saved.
There must be specific deliverance from specific demons after leading such a lifestyle because these types of lifestyles open specific doorways in your life for demonic infestation and eventually possession.
I was involved with the Occult for eight years before becoming born again and received deliverance from demonic spirits several months after becoming saved. I have some personal experience in dealing with demons so what I'm writing here is not something I learned in Bible School - I never went to Bible School, this is my life.
Now, let's look at it from the second perspective.
Someone is Gay and wants to become a Christian. Can they remain Gay and become born again? No, they cannot!
Can someone be Gay and Christian at the same time? No!
If you are Gay and want to become a Christian you have to be willing to give up your Gay lifestyle, plain and simple.
Here's the reason why.
Your lifestyle is based on a particular philosophy or world-view, a mental paradigm which is contrary to the nature of God and the principles which govern His kingdom.
In order to become a Christian you must give up not so much your lifestyle BUT the philosophy upon which your lifestyle is based and when you give up the philosophy the lifestyle will follow.
This is actually what repentance is!
Repentance is an exchange of philosophies or world-views, it's a profound paradigm shift which leads to a lifestyle transformation.
Both John the Baptist and Jesus came saying the same thing - "Repent! For the kingdom of God is at hand."
The kingdom of God represents a particular world-view or philosophy which everyone needs to adopt in order to enter into a relationship with God.
Just as there are three levels of salvation there are also three dimensions to your relationship with God.
- 1) When you become a Christian, God becomes your Father and you become His son.
- 2) Becoming a Christian also means you're engaged in spiritual warfare with demonic forces out to destroy everything godly so God also becomes your Commander-in-Chief and you become His soldier in a spiritual war.
- 3) God is a King and Jesus Christ is described as "The King of Kings" so when we enter into relationship with God we also become His Subjects.
Another way to say subjects is to say Citizens.
A kingdom is a type of government, a government rules a nation and every nation has citizens - We are citizens of the kingdom or government of God.
Referring to Christians, the Bible says, "But you are a chosen people... a holy nation, a people belonging to God..." 1 Peter 2:9
Every government also has a Constitution. The principles outlined and expounded on in the Holy Bible form the Constitution of the Government of God.
The constitution of every nation is formed by the philosophy of its government.
The Framers of the US Constitution had a philosophy of a land of freedom from tyranny and formed a Constitution based upon that philosophy.
The Bible instructs our philosophy or world-view as Christians and as loyal subjects or citizens of God's government we live and die by its teachings and principles.
Every soldier/citizen/son of America dying on the battlefields of Afghanistan and Iran right now is doing so because they believe in something, and that something is enshrined in the US Constitution; that it's the right of citizens of the United States to fight for and defend their freedom and way of life.
For the Christian it is precisely the same, only more so!
We are citizens of a government that will one day supersede every other government on the planet. We are subjects of a King who is the greatest Ruler the universe has ever seen or will ever see.
This is why you cannot remain Gay and become a Christian. Your basic philosophy violates the constitution of the kingdom to which you want to become a citizen.
Here's what the constitution says and I quote, "It is disgusting for a man to have sex with another man." (Leviticus 18:22) (The Contemporary English Version)
And here's the reasoning behind this philosophy.
"From heaven God shows how angry he is with all the wicked and evil things that sinful people do to crush the truth. They know everything that can be known about God, because God has shown it all to them. God's eternal power and character cannot be seen. But from the beginning of creation, God has shown what these are like by all he has made.
That's why those people don't have any excuse. They know about God, but they don't honor him or even thank him. Their thoughts are useless, and their stupid minds are in the dark. They claim to be wise, but they are fools. They don't worship the glorious and eternal God.
So God let these people go their own way. They did what they wanted to do, and their filthy thoughts made them do shameful things with their bodies. They gave up the truth about God for a lie, and they worshiped God's creation instead of God, who will be praised forever. Amen...
...God let them follow their own evil desires. Women no longer wanted to have sex in a natural way, and they did things with each other that were not natural. Men behaved in the same way. They stopped wanting to have sex with women and had strong desires for sex with other men. They did shameful things with each other, and what has happened to them is punishment for their foolish deeds." (Romans 1:18-27) (The Contemporary English Version)
In verse 26 of the King James Version it says, "vile affections" instead of "evil desires" the meaning of the word "vile" from the Greek among other things is "with contempt for myself"
I found that to be particularly interesting.
Part of the underlying reason for homosexual behavior is having contempt for oneself.
This makes perfect sense.
You see, to embrace the doctrine of homosexuality you would have to, by default, reject the very image of God inside of you and reject His most basic purpose for your life which is to reproduce other beings in His image and likeness.
How could you obey the most primary of all commands in the Bible if as a woman you refuse to marry and have sex with a man? And as a man you refuse to marry and have sex with a woman?
The very first instruction God gave to the human race was to reproduce so as to multiply and fill the universe with His image. This is part of the fundamental purpose of mankind - To reproduce the image of God.
Here's what the Bible says, "So God created man in his [own] image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.
And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth..." (Gen 1:27-28)
The homosexual philosophy is at its heart anti-Biblical, anti-God and anti-Christian!
So, when the Gay person says to me they love God and believe in the Bible I know that's a lie. The fact that they would even say this tells me they have no understanding of principles of the kingdom of God and of His Constitution.
Sadly, they may really think they love God and believe His word but in reality they don't, they're being deceived by the devil.
Don't feel alienated if you're Gay and reading this because the Bible actually says that all of us human beings are enemies of God before we are saved. I was in your position before I understood and so is every person on the planet. We are all enemies of God before we accept Jesus Christ as our Redeemer. It doesn't matter how much we think we love God! Jesus said, "If you love me keep my commandments."
Speaking to us Christians, Paul, the Apostle says, "And you, who once were alienated and enemies in your mind by wicked works, yet now He has reconciled in the body of His flesh through death, to present you holy, and blameless, and above reproach in His sight." Colossians 1:21-22
You see, we all were once enemies of God - This is what it means to be born in sin!
Sister and Brother Gay Person, the truth is you have already rejected God and His Doctrine to the point that you no longer see yourself as created in His image, to fulfill His purpose. By your actions you deny the most basic purpose of God for your life which is to reproduce other beings in God's image and to lead them in worshipping Him.
This is your primary purpose for existence so when you as a male, say that you no longer have any desire for women you're declaring to God that you reject His purpose for your existence and reject His authority over your life.
You need to repent!
As does each of us - We all need to repent!
First, every human being needs to perform the initial act of repentance where we surrender that particular doctrine or philosophy which is contrary to the principles of the kingdom of God - the one that's preventing us from entering into relationship with God as Father, and totally embrace the philosophy of the Gospel of Jesus Christ.
Jesus said, "I am the way..." and He's the only way to enter into a relationship with God and His Kingdom.
Secondly, we need to repent on a daily basis of all our other thought patterns and mental habits that are contrary to God's principles and embrace and practice those that are consistent with His nature and His character.
Can a Gay person remain Gay and become a Christian? No! Absolutely not!
Not until he/she repents (exchanges his/her homosexual philosophy and embraces the philosophy of the Kingdom of God)