We start our life unconscious; with discipline & effort we can become more conscious. Becoming more conscious of our emotions, creates more harmony in our life.
Emotions connect us with our feelings, influencing our thinking & behavior. Thoughts have feelings attached to it. In recognizing our feelings, we understand how they affect our thoughts. We do not always recognize our feelings and are more conscious of our thoughts.
Psychological neurosis happens when our needs are thwarted. Blocked in fulfilling our human needs, we get frustrated and reroute our behavior into neurosis, developing unwanted emotions and behaviors, which are both self-destructive and destructive to others.
Feelings give meaning to our thoughts, help us to decide our behavior, whether we're conscious of it or not. We think that our thought processes decision making, but ultimately emotions (unconsciously) drive our behavior. Our emotions influence our thoughts more than our thoughts influence our emotions. Feelings need to be sorted out, because feelings drive both our thoughts & behaviors. Much of our psyche is unconscious. Both emotions & thoughts need to be made equally conscious.
Engaging with others promotes understanding of our own emotions, and the emotions of others. Emotions provide us with information about our behavior, and that of others; learning to interact with Self, and in that context, how to interact with others. Every emotion stirs our unconscious, becomes manifest in our behavior, and affects the people around us.
Emotions are signals that carry information, provide us with guidance, to figure out the dynamics of our relationships. Learning to manage our emotions, we realize that each emotion has a specific function. Often we unleash them, unconsciously, without any understanding of the consequences. To determine whether the use of our emotions is functional or dysfunctional, is becoming aware of them; gaining knowledge of them, understanding them. Eventually our feelings can be respected as thoughts, and our behaviors could be contemplated, rather than automatic. When our emotions agree with our thoughts, they harmonize into understanding.
We can learn how to express our feelings, when and where to express them, and how they affect others. Our emotions are primarily used in relationships, therefor it is imperative that we learn how our emotions affect others. Becoming aware that our response to others will affect the way they respond to us. Developing empathy, we take responsibility for the way our emotions affect others.
We live in a society which identifies the strong as those who can function without feeling. Ultimately, this stifles, blocking out the world around us. The only relationship we have to the world around us is how we feel it. It's our own unconsciousness, that causes us not to feel the pain within ourselves, which is the source of the pain we cause others.
Becoming responsible for our own emotions, the positive or negative impact that they have on others, will aid in harmony. We do not live in isolation, but rather in relationships with others. Therefore, what affects one person affects our Self, and vice versa. Through understanding we gain affection for others - that arises out of our relationship, and our knowing affinity with others. Feelings are universal.
Rising above the suffering of others, by dropping one's own participation in causing the suffering of others, we fall within a harmonious agreement with Self, and therefore with others. Different emotions produce different kinds of behaviors. Emotions have texture, flavor and aftertaste. We can differentiate the texture & flavor of our emotions. Tapping into our memory, we can discover the aftertaste of an emotion, learning to use that emotion suitably, functionally.
Unaware of our emotional associations with our decisions, we find them in conflict. When emotion does not match our intellect, we create discord. Our decisions affect our emotions, and our emotions affect our decisions; when they are in harmony, they work for our benefit.
Understanding our needs, emotions, intellect and our relationships, we grow a capacity to achieve our highest possibilities. Knowing how to relate to others in our behavior is the foundation of our emotional condition. Our emotions create our culture, which create our social structures. A change to our society will only come from a conscious & informed effort.
We created our own misery in our society. We have made a habit out of our negative emotions. Our emotional habits have taken up residence in the neurological networks of our brain. To alleviate the continuous process of the pain we inflict on each other by our behavior, which makes us numb to our emotions, incapable of utilizing them properly, we cooperate with each other rather than compete, treat other with respect & dignity, rather than try to dominate them.
Relearning how to respond in relationships, will enhance our survival; recognizing, understanding, handling and appropriately expressing emotions. It is extremely difficult to change these habits, but not impossible. Learning to modify our own behaviors, modifying the way we feel, changing our perception, will nurture the development of our relationships.
Understanding the value of our fellow human beings, we find compassion and achieve happiness as a society, together.