My family is pretty split in the way we deal with relationships. My mother is from a family of 6 boys and lots of dating. My father, however, if from a conservative family where he was practically growing up as a single child (his siblings have at least 10 years on him), and was not even allowed to be in the same room alone with a girl.
Therefore, a dilemma came about when my significant other and I became "serious". When he was over, we would want to sleep together (not get intimate, but legitimately sleep together), which cause a great rift in the household. MY mother, evidently on the same wavelength as my sister, couldn't care less either way. My father, however, was very uncomfortable with the whole thing.
NOW, before I continue, let me say this: I completely agree and understand how my father is feeling. Sure, it bugs me that I can't sleep next to my significant other, but I understand how it feels to have a young couple sleeping together in my area (enter roommate and moocher boyfriend).
I was planning on letting it slide, but my mother took the liberty of talking to him about it. Now, this, in my opinion, is possibly the worst thing anyone could have done.
Lets get this straight. First, my father hates his job. Secondly, he hates to travel. Thirdly, his parents are very old and slowly breaking down so he had to go and see them and help them move. This last one really gets to him.
So, when my mother called him up to talk, with him on the road, after a job, going to see his parents, he was not in the best spirits.
So now I feel like crap, giving him another reason to feel bad. I supposed this doesn't help how I am as a daughter, as I am terrible at calling and whathaveyou. I feel like I can't call him, though I know I should. I think tomorrow I will clean house after the decorations are hung, as he loves it when things are clean and in order.