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Chris Brown and Rihanna: O.J. and Nicole Brown Simpson Redux?
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Heather Catherine Hogan's recent blog post (http://www.redroom.com/blog/heather-catherine-hogan/why-do-women-go-back) questioning why victims of domestic violence so often return to their perpetrators has had me Googling for answers.

In so doing, I stumbled upon CNN's Web site.  That news organization has acquired a copy of an affidavit by Los Angeles Police Detective DeShon Andrews in which he detailed what apparently occurred between entertainers Chris Brown and Rihanna (legal name:  Robyn Rihanna Fenty) in the early hours of February 8, 2009.  It's chilling:

"Brown was driving a vehicle with Robyn F. as the front passenger on an unknown street in Los Angeles.  Robyn F. picked up Brown's cellular phone and observed a three-page text message from a woman who Brown had a previous sexual relationship with."

"A verbal argument ensued and Brown pulled the vehicle over on an unknown street, reached over Robyn F. with his right hand, opened the car door and attempted to force her out.  Brown was unable to force Robyn F. out of the vehicle because she was wearing a seat belt.  When he could not force her to exit, he took his right hand and shoved her head against he passenger window of the vehicle, causing an approximate one-inch raised circular contusion."

"Robyn F. turned to face Brown and he punched her in the left eye with his right hand.  He then drove away in the vehicle and continued to punch her in the face with his right hand while steering the vehicle with his left hand. The assault caused Robyn F.'s mouth to fill with blood and blood to splatter all over her clothing and the interior of the vehicle."

"Brown looked at Robyn F. and stated, 'I'm going to beat the s--t out of you when we get home!  You wait and see!'"

The detective said "Robyn F." then used her cell phone to call her personal assistant Jennifer Rosales, who did not answer.

"Robyn F. pretended to talk to her and stated, 'I'm on my way home.  Make sure the police are there when I get there.'"

"After Robyn F. faked the call, Brown looked at her and stated, 'You just did the stupidest thing ever!  Now I'm really going to kill you!'"

"Brown resumed punching Robyn F. and she interlocked her fingers behind her head and brought her elbows forward to protect her face.  She then bent over at the waist, placing her elbows and face near her lap in [an] attempt to protect her face and head from the barrage of punches being levied upon her by Brown."

"Brown continued to punch Robyn F. on her left arm and hand, causing her to suffer a contusion on her left triceps [sic] that was approximately two inches in diameter and numerous contusions on her left hand."

"Robyn F. then attempted to send a text message to her other personal assistant, Melissa Ford.  Brown snatched the cellular telephone out of her hand and threw it out of the window onto an unknown street."

"Brown continued driving and Robyn F. observed his cellular telephone sitting in his lap.  She picked up the cellular telephone with her left hand and before she could make a call he placed her in a head lock with his right hand and continued to drive the vehicle with his left hand."

"Brown pulled Robyn F. close to him and bit her on her left ear.  She was able to feel the vehicle swerving from right to left as Brown sped away.  He stopped the vehicle in front of 333 North June Street and Robyn F. turned off the car, removed the key from the ignition and sat on it."

"Brown did not know what she did with the key and began punching her in the face and arms.  He then placed her in a head lock positioning the front of her throat between his bicep and forearm.  Brown began applying pressure to Robyn F.'s left and right carotid arteries, causing her to be unable to breathe and she began to lose consciousness."

"She reached up with her left hand and began attempting to gouge his eyes in an attempt to free herself.  Brown bit her left ring and middle fingers and then released her.  While Brown continued to punch her, she turned around and placed her back against the passenger door.  She brought her knees to her chest, placed her feet against Brown's body and began pushing him away.  Brown continued to punch her on the legs and feet, causing several contusions."

"Robyn F. began screaming for help and Brown exited the vehicle and walked away.  A resident in the neighborhood heard Robyn F.'s plea for help and called 911, causing a police response.  An investigation was conducted and Robyn F. was issued a Domestic Violence Emergency Protective Order."  [The full affidavit can be found here:  http://i.cdn.turner.com/cnn/2009/images/03/05/brown.warrant.pdf.]

At the end of his statement, Andrews said Brown sent a text message nine days later apologizing.  Right.  And so, I guess, all is forgiven.

Through her lawyer, Rihanna asked a judge today not to prohibit Brown from having contact with her while he faces two felony charges of assaulting her.  The judge granted Rihanna's request.

Is there no one in a position of authority or in Rihanna's private life who comprehends the danger she is in?  I find this a deeply troubling state of affairs.  Brown has shown Rihanna and the world who he is, and she should believe him without awaiting even stronger evidence.

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Ellen, thank you for this

Ellen, thank you for this blog! Can you believe her face and the torture she went through? What is worse, is she asked the judge to open communication lines between her and her perpetrator, Chris Brown. I just gave another lecture about this to my girls before I logged on to the Red Room. I am printing your blog for my girls to read. Thank you!

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If the detective's account

If the detective's account of the incident is even close to what actually happened, it seems to me Rihanna easily could've died that night.  Having one's head bashed against a car window (skull fracture, internal bleeding, brain swelling?) and being choked like that. . .either could've been the end of her.  In addition, her seatbelt kept her from being thrown out of a moving vehicle and possibly run over.  What more does it take to see the grave danger she was/is in?

I don't know anything about the American law on this.  Perhaps the judge had no legal grounds for forbidding contact between these two.  But if he had the power to keep them apart, why didn't he use it?  Why aren't these crimes against women taken seriously enough?  It seems almost a global phenomenon.

The lives of our females still have so little value at times.

Catherine, I'm glad you are teaching your girls about these things.  Be sure to hug them and fuss on them a lot so they don't have to look desperately for those things outside the family when they are older. 

Like you, I think if Rihanna had sufficient self regard--not massive ego, but just quiet self respect--she would extract herself from this man.  Look at her. . .she is talented, successful, famous, gorgeous.  But something at the core seems lacking.  A damned pity.

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extra ordinary attempt by you Ellen.

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Thanks, Dr. Jitu.  I'm

Thanks, Dr. Jitu. 

I'm just curious.  If a patient in Rihanna's situation presented herself to you, as a doctor practicing in India, would you be under any sort of pressure/requirement/moral obligation to report the violence to the authorities? 


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Brava, once again

Brava, Ellen, for continuing to speak out about these hideous actions of men against women.

Monday, March 8, 2009 is International Women's Day, and I only hope that one day in our lifetimes we will mark that day by seeing fruit from our work. No woman should live in fear of her life, and none of us should remain silent out of political correctness, moral or cultural relativism, cowardice or indifference.

You go!

Karen Tintori, author
Unto the Daughters: The Legacy of an Honor Killing in a Sicilian-American Family

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Hi, Karen!  I didn't

Hi, Karen!  I didn't realize you are in the Red Room, too.

We are very much on the same page where speaking out against these crimes is concerned.  I'm reasonably sure you've been following some of the more recent American ones, particularly since one has struck so close to home for you.

Thanks to you, too, for educating yourself about and taking on this issue.  I, too, hope we see the fruits of our labors one day, not for any personal glory, but for the comfort of knowing our sisters are, at last, safe.

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A lot of that, as you and

A lot of that, as you and Heather implied, goes back to the relationship between mothers and daughters. Some mothers just don´t realize how fruitful or damaging that can be.

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It's very, very difficult

It's very, very difficult for me to understand how a mother can do or say something, knowing it will doom her daughter.

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I know well the daughters of

I know well the daughters of mothers who wish ill for them. My conclusion in each instance has been it is the result of envy.

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I fear you are right,

I fear you are right, Dale.  Thanks for weighing in.

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Going back...

How is it possible to leave a comment on this blog post? Rihanna obviously needs immediate guidance on well, her life and all that surrounds it. Surely, this is the saddest statement that after enduring this abuse she goes back for more.

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It's so easy to see from our

It's so easy to see from our vantage points, isn't it?

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law in india

Hi Ellen,

               as per an Indian law I have to inform the nearest police station for any injury occurred either by accident or violence, even if the patient doesn't want to lodge F.I.R. If I am not doing so, I will be in trouble in case patient dies of an injury or reconsiders for F.I.R after some days.Those who want to file FIR, mostly go to government hospitals for legal authenticity of the treatment.

                I come across 10 to 15 cases a year in which both husband and wife come together giving fabricated story of falling or missing of steps, and I could clearly see that this is a case of home violence. But I can't do any thing unless wife complains for it, so I have to register it as a normal injury. Till date none of them have created trouble for me.

                        By these experiences I found and analyzed the reasons for women's going back to abusive husbands.Here in India reasons are mostly financial dependence,social status, protection,social black mailing,wrong moral education to the girls from childhood, unpopularity of remarriage,and of course need to love and to be loved in some cases.

                        In one funny incident the husband was brought to me by his wife and she gave a history of dog bite on her husband's right ear lobe. I advised him five doses of anti rabbis injections which would cost them 2000 rupees, and than she told the true story that she herself had bittn his lobe in rage, as he was not giving enough money to run a home and asking for that frequently, tried to beat her, in which wife won by biting his ear lobe, a case of victory once in a while.


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Thanks for the explanation,

Thanks for the explanation, Dr. Jitu.  I am pleased to learn that the decision to file the complaint isn't left entirely to the victim.  In the eyes of the law, the abuse is handled as a criminal, not a familial, matter. 

In Jordan and some other countries in the Middle East, the victim's family can choose not to press charges or press but then drop charges, effectively letting the perpetrator off the hook.  Too often, this is the route taken.

The rabies case is both sad and amusing.  Cosmic justice of sorts for the husband.  Maybe you can prescribe rabies shots for those other 10 to 15 cases per year in which the parties are lie telling.  The rabies prescription might induce them to 'fess up, too.  :-D

Dr. Jitu's truth serum.  Available now at your local pharmacy.  Hehehe.

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I am not a revenge seeking person in basic, but that day i was happy after finding truth and felt like you 'he..he ..he'.
Men have to pay lot more for their sins.

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It's always nice when,

It's always nice when, amidst the grimness of this subject, you can find a good laugh. So rare.