Confucius said, "When you meet a noble person, emulate them. When you meet an evil person, look within."
But why? Because you only ever do unto others what you've done to yourself already. Conversely, you do to yourself what you've done to others. Both are equally true, as well as equally telling.
Today I will make it my practice to remind myself, when I meet an irritating person, instead of judging, avoiding, or being critical, I will give attention to what it is in me that triggers the internal negativity toward this person. I know this won't be easy. Which is why most people do not engage in this kind of self-inquiry. But I am learning that, I only ever dislike in others what I've denied is also in me.
Additionally, when I meet someone today I feel drawn toward, delighted to be around...I will give attention to what it is in me that feels so positive around this person. This will be an easier process, although not normally engaged in by most people either. But I am learning in this regard too that I only ever like in someone else what I like and value in myself.
Self-inquiry, resulting in self-discovery, is one of the secrets to the mystery of happiness. Blessed looking, my friends. What you'll find is enlightening...is enlightenment.