I was on plane yesterday from Orlando to Philadelphia that was maybe 2/3's full. A few moments after I sat down in the aisle seat, my row-mates arrived, a 14ish-year-old boy and a 5-year-old boy. They were traveling without adults, and with A LOT of carry-on luggage.
The older boy, maybe a hundred pounds wet, hoists one bag into the overhead above our seats with great difficulty.
"That won't close," the flight attendant tells him dryly.
He tries to close it.
It won't close.
She raises her eyebrows.
The line of passengers behind him is getting antsy, waiting to get to their seats.
"Maybe he can turn it sideways," I say.
The flight attendant shrugs.
The boy's confused, paralyzed.
I rearrange other people's stuff. Turn his bag. All is well. Except he still has two huge bags to go.
"Here." I take his second bag, stuff it into another overhead.
"Can we get to our seats now?" the lady behind me says.
The flight attendant clucks.
The boy takes the third bag and shoves it down by his feet. Of course, it doesn't fit.
"They're going to make you put it up top," I say. The line of passengers is passing, scowling, shaking their heads.
"Nah. It's okay," he says.
"No. I mean, they'll make you."
"I'm fine."
I don't want to be naggy and he's busy answering his brother's million questions, so I start reading.
A few minutes later, the plane starts moving down the runway. The flight attendant scans the aisles, missing the bag.
Just as we're in final take-off mode, she spots it. "That bag has to go on top," she says. She offers no guidance.
I get up. The boy tries to get the bag out, but it's so wedged in, he can't budge it. There's something awkward about him that I can't quite pinpoint.
"That can't be there," she repeats.
I tell the boy to move aside. I wiggle and pull and finally yank the bag out. The people in the row in front of us look back, annoyed. Another flight attendant has found an empty overhead for the bag. I carry the bag to it and stuff it in. It fits (barely).
"You're very nice to carry someone else's bag," the first flight attendant says when I return to my seat.
"He's a child," I growl at her. I'm annoyed, but I also don't want to embarrass the poor kid any more than he's been embarrassed. I'm thinking of my own kids, who probably couldn't take a bus by themselves, much less take a little brother on a cross-country flight.
I sit back down.
"Thanks," he says softly.
"No worries." I start reading again.
Without a word, the boy turns his hands palm up. On his right hand, he has a train track of stitches snaking from his index finger, down his palm, onto his wrist.
"Wow," I say.
"Popped two stitches already," he tells me.
"I bet. Those bags are heavy."
He smiles an adorable, crooked smile. "Nah. They're fine."
He's right of course. The bags are fine. He's fine. His little brother, already asleep, is fine.
It's everyone else on the plane who's got a problem.
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Flying brings out the worst - and in your case, the best in us. It seems there's a law or something that causes people to check their humanity when they cross the plane's threshold. No talking, barely make eye contact, certainly no helping... Enjoyed reading your blog.
thanks, mary...
I think there's something about being treated like cargo that makes us behave as non-humans. It's so unpleasant all-around, we just want it to end.
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Diana, Your story made me sad
Diana,
Your story made me sad and angry and very annoyed with the attendants on that plane.
Bless you for helping that young man.
Annette
thanks, Annette...
The whole system is set up to maximize profits at the expense of everything else. The poor kid had so many bags because it costs so much to check them. What can you do? I know that I picked that flight because I saved $9 over the other flights....maybe we get what we pay for...*sigh*
Happy you were on that plane.
Sad story but beautifully told. People should realize that they are all our children. How many stitches would have been broken if you had not helped him? (I suspect the trip was not necessarily a pleasant adventure for him anyhow. Maybe going from one parent to another and knowing he was leaving his friends behind for the summer. Maybe dreading the adjustments he would be required to make and help his little brother to make.) Regardless of his story and, of course, maybe it was a joyful journey, I am just glad he felt your love and concern.
It is too bad there were no real attendants on the plane. Glad you were willing to fill in.
Thanks, Sue...
"People should realize that they are all our children."
This is what kept going through my mind exactly. It's so easy to forget.
who's got a problem ?
It's everyone else on the plane who's got a problem.
O, my, yes. And the really sad part is--they don't know it.
I love your growl--like a mother bear. The young need protecting, nurturing, role models! Thank God you were there to be one. That will be part of the young man's memory of the trip.
Blessings on you, Diana
Hi Dolores.
Thanks.
I hope I helped, but I really didn't want to make the story about me. I wanted it to be about how easy it is to forget that we're all facing hardships, and no matter how things appear on the outside, there's always more to the story.
It seemed like a good metaphor for life!
What a great post this is
What a great post this is Diana! Flying is stressful, excess carry on luggage is even more stressful but everyone has a story behind traveling. Admittedly, it can be difficult to be kind to one's seat mate but have managed to be mother first before irate passenger. Kudos to you! I should remember to be a little kinder to my seat mate when traveling :-)
Rina...
...you know, it was funny because I wanted to help him but I didn't want to be intrusive. It's so hard to strike a balance. I was dying to know what had happened to his arm, and went back and forth over whether it was okay to ask. Flying is such an awkward situation.
hardship
how easy it is to forget that we're all facing hardships
That's an important angle. Do you suppose we see other adults as facing problems, but kids creating a difficult situation may only be seen as troublesome kids?
Whatever his story, you were the one bit of comfort he found. I'm so glad for him.
Hi Dolores
That's so interesting, because I would think it's the other way around--that we feel more compassion for children than for adults. I think that I do.
One thing I didn't put in this story (because I didn't want it to distract from a more universal theme) was the boys' race. I think that might have played a very large part in people's reactions.
prejudice
the boys' race. I think that might have played a very large part in people's reactions.
I'm sure you were right in not including it. It would have changed the focus for many people. Sad but true.
Touching~!
A touching story, sweetly told.
thanks, Eva....
...so nice to know people are reading/appreciating.... :-)
Great!
What a good story! I think that we all forget sometimes (especially with the stress of flying) that it's important to be kind and helpful to other people. Your story definitely helped make that need fresh in my brain. Especially kids who don't have an adult with them and may or may not know what they are doing...
I'd like to think that I would have done the same thing in your situation, despite the pressure of other agitated adults. How awesome.