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A Face Only A Mother Could Love?

Recently I read an email from a young mother of a one month old baby born with cleft lip and palate.  Her tearful post recounted a scene in her local grocery store earlier that day.  As I read her account of what had taken place, I remembered a similar incident which had happened to me and my son, and the anger began to build.

First, let me say that we mothers of children born with craniofacial anomalies are as proud and in love with our babies as any other mother.  With today's sonograms and diagnostics, a mother often knows quite early in the pregnancy that her child will be born cleft affected.  She has time during the pregnancy to mourn the loss of the child she has envisioned and to accept that the baby she will bear will not be "perfect."  And so, as she labors to bring forth her child, like most mothers giving birth, she is mainly concerned with birthing a living, healthy baby.

To those of us who adopt, our image of our little one has changed many times with each attempt and failure at adoption until, finally, our baby is placed in our arms.  When we first look into the face of our child, we see just that - our child.  So it was with me when I first beheld my Christopher.  To me, he was so beautiful, and I couldn't wait to show him off.

I remember the day I took my son to the grocery store to introduce him to my friends there.