Many years ago, I was told this 'absolute truth': "Courtney, you're a fool. You could do better, be better, but you're incapable of it. You don't use your mind. All you do is feel, feel, feel." This person glared at me, screwed up their face in a pouty look and mocked my voice, "'I feel this....I feel that.' You need to stop living your life by your feelings and learn how to think."
Looking back, I can laugh, because eventually this person realized I wasn't so stupid after all, but back then, I felt as if a sword was thrust through my heart. My feelings, my intuition, my emotions were deemed unworthy and because of this, and a multitude of other reasons, I began to believe that I was worthless.
It's true, I wear my heart on my sleeve and I feel things very deeply- but this had never kept me from using my mind. In fact, my feelings encourage me to think outside of the box, enabling me to question what my mind tells me which enables me to find new possibilities and create new ideas.
The mind and heart are not constantly at odds with each other. It's true that at times they can be in conflict, but for the most part, if they work together as a team, beautiful things, truths and dreams can be created.
That being said, the truth of the mind, while it can be in conflict with the heart, never negates what the heart feels. Truth, no matter how vicious or wicked it may be, is still truth, and your heart will respond to it in an appropriate manner. It is never wrong. Your heart is never wrong. Your feelings are never wrong. So cry when you need to, laugh when you must, crumble to the ground in gut-wrenching fury and dance in the thrill of life, because your feelings are true and they are an expression of you, your life's experiences and what your soul truly knows.
To hinder them and hide them because your mind tells you they can't be so, is truly death itself.
Live, love, feel and use your feelings to use your mind in a better way.
There is far more strength in a compassionate person in touch with their feelings than any mind-strong fool that walks this earth.
Causes Courtney Filigenzi Supports
American Cancer Society
Army of Women