A woman's sexiness has been misdirected and misplaced in recent times. Lotta women have been misinformed about the real role of a woman. Little wonder, long after the Beijing conference snowballing the female emancipation campaign, women have been more enslaved than any time in history. Yeah there is freedom to vote and be voted for, a woman can be whatever she wants to be without any law placing a limit on her anymore but honestly, is she happier? Is the woman free from the man? Having gained all the freedom she desires, isn't she living at the mercy of the man? Isn't she living to impress him? Someone wanna ask, isn't a woman suppose to live for a man? No. she's suppose to live with him. She's suppose to be a friend, confidant, copilot etc. she's not his inferior and most importantly she's not created to satisfy his basic instinct. Unfortunately, that's what women think of men and I may write more in this line today.

She thinks that by getting a man to think with "between his legs", she can make him do anything. So she adorns and reveals herself to interest his "between the leg" - she often gets his attention but is he always thinking with his "between"? he often gets tired of what you are offering and move on to someone else. Men get bored with sex and beauty. They do. I will tell you what they never get tired of and that's the real sexiness of a woman. Till date, nothing obstructs a woman's divine agenda on earth and nothing makes her less than her desire to lure a man - consciously or unconsciously. The more she succeeds in that venture, the further she denounces her power to be WOMAN - the mother of mankind. A mother? Wow! Yes. Women of yesteryears have thrived here, although they seem to be slaves but can I say same of our bust and butts generation? Do you still remember people like mother Theresa, Mary Slessor, Abraham Lincoln's and John Wesley's mom? If you don't, you have seen their labour in their children.

For me, A woman is more than bust and butts. She's spirit and soul. She can make a world if she dares. It's not coincidence that God made her the initial house of the little man because she's got to know him in his innocent days and be able to build a world with as the bigger man. I think the world is getting worse because the WOMAN is missing - no apologies. She's busy becoming more beautiful and sexier because that's the quickest way she thinks she can make a man bow. If she's not spotted, she works harder or even feel inferior. God created Eve to help Adam. She's here to make sure he succeeds. If he fails, she is losing her value. I am not saying she's a slave or less. I think she's got a better job. Again no apologies to the men. Okay let me take a minute to talk to men.

A woman is not a foot mat and she is not a slave. You are not her God and your word cannot be law - she's a partner. As Alicia Keys sings, "a real man knows a woman's worth...". Africa men, which I am also in body (I cannot denounce my race), have really erred in appreciating the true worth of a woman. I believe this is one of the reasons why Africa is so backward in global matters. Men are so power drunk and driven that they see women as leisure not treasure. "Men are gods, Men are all, it's a man's world..." is bullshit. I speak TRUTH and I lie not. I have been more influenced by women in my few days as a man. Our heroes in the past and present never underestimate the power a woman. From Mohatma Ghandi to Abraham Lincoln to Clinton and to Barrack Obama tapped into the infinite power of the women in their lives. Even the great and strong Achilles speaks of a woman as he said, "you give me peace in a lifetime of war." Once again, woman are not lesser humans - I think they are more. Every man who wants to succeed must swallow his pride and be enriched by the woman - that's why she's here. This article is not about men. I will do men someday.

Back to women, being sexy is good because men are physical. Have you asked yourself why the world's greatest men never married beauty queens or sex goddesses? My apology to beauty queens and sex goddesses. I once managed a couple of models. So I am equally guilty if my intentions were to discredit you. The truth remains, the WOMAN is more than the face, bust and butts.. she's a life jacket. She rarely achieves that by making beauty her priority and besides, the favors beauty attract, are really true. Trust me on this. I worked with "sexy" people and I know what I say. A true sexy woman for a man is one that can meet his need to succeed in his God-given field - he rarely gets enough of her. He may be seduced like Clinton but he knows he way home. A true woman who fulfils a man never bores him because of his unfailing need to pursue and conquer kingdoms. He will always needs her wit.

If you like, do away with a man whose priority is your body and keeps telling you that you are not as sexy as JLo. He's switching your attention to something less worthy and making you feel inferior. You are more than your body - you are a woman blessed with a higher value from birth and you don't need to be a sex goddess to achieve that. More so, men who make you feel unpretty are greedy and hardly stable. You can not give them what they want. Soon they will find someone more beautiful and sexy and then leave you in a hurry. As they say, the beautiful ones are not yet born. Be ready for rivals. That's why I don't like attention that beauty brings. It's usually selfish. Don't lose yourself to please a man. You are more than physical and if he cannot see it, he can leave.

Quit making the outward more beautiful and leave the inward because at the end of the day what men want is inside. They only need the outward for ego but the inward for friendship and family. Trust me on this. I am sorry if I sound too critical, absolute and old-fashioned. Men are failing because women are missing. Like in Eden, man is alone again. He needs you. He really does. Now is the time to do it.