I once read the tradition of wedding rings worn on the third finger of the left hand comes from Druid cultures pre-dating Christianity. The understanding of the human body was limited and it was believed by the Druids that that a vein traveled from our hearts to our third finger on our left hands. Thus the ring representing this special anatomy element significant of a deep heart connection to another person. We can thank the Druids for easter eggs, christmas trees amongst other things. I am in Paris watching the live marriage ceremony of Catherine Middleton and Prince William. Something about the ceremony stirs up ancient deeply buried feelings. There are still mysteries on this earth. I would guess that love is a mystery. I am listening to the speech the minister is giving after Kate and William are wedded and they mention a quote by Chaucer. I think that is cool because I remember visiting Westminster Abbey one time and seeing Chaucer's grave inside the church. Moving to hear his words spoken almost from the grave.
Also brings to mind the different weddings I have been to or sadly wish I had attended in my life and was too young to remember or missed due to distance and limited communication pre-internet. I was born when my aunt Karen who married very young. I must have been two years old so I don't remember it. She died when I was 5 years old my first experience losing someone I love. Although I was there and have pictures, and older cousins and relatives who can remember. Extra sad for all the weddings I missed because of moving with my parents at a young age and living cross country. I went to my father's second marriage. One of my roommates sisters I strummed this guitar weakly at her wedding. My sister had a nice wedding where they didn't submit the paperwork so kind of a big party null-and-void wedding. She did marry a guy for reals wearing a pearl covered dress. Various friends related by nursing or art. One fun one where they hit an anvil together. She was a beautiful bride. I met a nice guy there that I teased looked like Diego Rivera. This rather sweet small wedding at a chapel downtown.
Living in the southwest USA I attended several weddings where the customs and traditions came from Mexico. One in Roswell where the bride and groom wore white ropes each around their necks a symbolic connecting. It kinda freaked me out. I loved this day of the dead themed wedding. Wonderful. Also a very elegant and pretty wedding at the University chapel of a couple I introduced. The nicest wedding I have been part of. That brings to mind I have introduced four couples. One lesbian couple who already were aware of each other, are still together I hope I was part of their beginning future together. A secretary and doctor I introduced. And two other couples I tried to foster along so around four all together. I have given up match making since then. A cute wedding were the minister talked to long and the bride almost fainted from kneeling. A very fun wedding in the suburb of Casablanca Moracco where we enjoyed the three or four day preparations with the family.
What I find so interesting about this wedding is how much hidden feelings it brings up in me. Like some sort of ancient understanding that I don't even subconsciously know what it means. Also makes me think of my two seperate wedding days. My first at the justice of the peace and a small lunch with his parents at a nice restaurant. The second with a bit more fanfare and it was very important to me. A real marriage. A memorable day. The wedding of a friend of mine in Paris, as we both were wanting to make serious partnerships and have a child and we both did. The music right now I am hearing in Westminster Abbey is written by William Blake. I find it incredibly moving that these beloved writers' words are sung. As I grow older fewer and fewer people I know are getting married. My husband and I hope to have a Catholic marriage in the next years. As he was never married before having lived with his partner which is recognized as a legal Pax in France and my first marriage was outside the church. So I still have one more wedding in me yet. Our son will probally find it amusing.