In the past couple of days, I found myself pondering over some things that I read. This led me to go back in time growing up with nine brothers and seven sisters, and a dominate father. I recalled my brothers and father having to be ‘one up’ on everything. The males even let the females know they were ahead by more boys in our family. “But ‘not so’ said the female!” However, my mother made us aware that we were equal - nine boys and nine girls. Alas, a sister was stillborn.
Females always stood out to me as being spirited because of their greater tenderness of nurturing. This softness still follows me wherever I am. For those who are familiar with my quest, they will have no doubt that my passion of support is somewhat different than what the world redeems as empowering the feminine. I do my best to empower women and men of their feminine Gift of servitude.
Growing up around male dominance, and the softness of the female, was something like this for me: The girls washed dishes, cleaned the house, folded clothes, and ironed for everyone. While the boys, showered, put on their pressed shirt, sat across the table and waited for their prepared meal, which we gladly (at times) served them. They also did all the repairs and hard work inside and outside the house. The boys grown into men and worked outside the house and financially took care of their whole family, while the girls grown into women and nurtured their family inside the house, graciously. The men didn’t try to take over the women’s place in the house and wanted nothing to do with it. And women didn’t step out over the men. Back then, there was an ideal balance and an understanding that both roles were of greater importance as ‘a whole.’
This old-fashioned theory has changed roles and places and is now becoming more of an argument than an ideal situation for some of our children and families these days.
What role or place isn’t already enough for us?
The world I lived in as a child is no different for me today. What I’ve become more aware of is this: It matters not a male or female precedence. As long as we are mindful in that place of nurturing with love and compassion to ‘be here.’
Causes Catherine Nagle Supports
Westwind Foster Family Agency, Christian Children's Fund, Compassion International, Make-A-Wish Foundation, Invisible Children, Save the Children