Letting Go of the Summer Shore
Almost 20 years ago, my husband and I bought a small summer vacation house in Cape May, New Jersey, just 100 miles away from our home. The decision actually came about, with hope, to give my husband some relaxation with fishing and to bond our marriage, because of his hectic work schedule with long hours. The joy lasted for only a couple of years before he lost interest in this wonderful get away , which was truly a paradise to me!
The disappointment shown and, sadly, it was also brought to my attention every time I crossed paths with a relative who lived just a short block away from us at the shore (due to an unresolved family grievance.) The short block was truly, by far, a distant shore at heart. But being the financial head of our family, my husband wasn't ready to let go of the summer shore house. And only through prayer: I was given strength and patience not to allow the disappointments or disapproval from others sicken me that the shore brought about the greatest gift that I hoped for with another child, which gave me 15 pleasurable years of the summer shore, sandy beaches, sunsets, swimming, bike riding, ice cream cones, and the blessing of more children that I looked forward to every weekend.
After almost 20 years, I'm letting go of the summer shore. My son will soon turn sixteen. His summers are filled with a schedule that doesn't allow the weekend get- away as freely . At the same time my husband continues the excitement of travel and busyness in his profession that gives him pleasure that he longs to fulfill. That my dream of retirement in a larger house by the shore has lost its flavor.
I'm grateful today that I have those memorable years that I can look back as a reminder to count my blessings, instead of holding on to the grievances that followed me the whole (Holy) time. I truly believe God’s plan for our family vacations are even better yet to come.
I've decided to join a swim club that is only a mile away from our home. My son will still be able to enjoy swimming, biking, while keeping up with Karate School and, better yet, my two grandchildren and dear neighborhood friends will be closer at hand and warmly welcome us. We have a bike trail close by that I have yet to explore. And to add to my leisure; I'll have one house to clean and look after; not two! I won't have to grocery shop or pack and unpack clothing for two houses anymore; just one. I won't have to travel 100 miles for sun and fun…the sun shines and the fun’s here, too!
Actually, I finally realized that happiness lives in my heart wherever I am. Quote Rev. Brian Bransfield "Our true home is the happiness that comes from God alone, not the ways of the world." I'm thankful to God for keeping me with joy while I was there, and continues to keep me with joy of letting go of the summer shore.
Perhaps, one fine day, we'll get away to that paradise vacation in Cape May when every heart agrees.
Causes Catherine Nagle Supports
Westwind Foster Family Agency, Christian Children's Fund, Compassion International, Make-A-Wish Foundation, Invisible Children, Save the Children