"....there is the idea that there is no objective truth."
There was a time that I didn’t feel comfortable conversing with people who were strictly street smart because I thought they weren’t being fair with me or those around them. It was the way that they reasoned with everything that caused a distrust or unpleasantness in some of my relationships. It was their own advice that they followed. When problems came up, and I offered to share another view, I was immediately cut off from speaking whenever I reconsidered where the truth may be. All the while, I observed others showing niceness and empathy as a way of helping another with their problems, even if their choice is wrong, or could harm them or someone else later. As a Course in Miracle's student, I learned that I didn’t need to be right, but I also had to be true to myself and others whenever anyone asked for my opinion. These weren’t always easy or were they pleasant conversations that took place in my life. However, I’m now learning how to remain in the game and cause no harm and still be honest.
Today, I’m hearing a lot more about people having certified mentors, advisers, or their own therapist that enriches their lives. And, I’m glad we have great professionals in these fields to help keep us on the path of meaning, fulfillment and success. They have an enormous position in this life that carries a lot of responsibility. It’s a role that I find challenging and seriously needed in our society. Even after years of study and practicing, there are specific skills required to do this more kindly with love. I learned that no one wants to be told that they are on the wrong path, or making choices that might harm them later. However true, the person who isn’t always as nice usually loves us the most, goes out of their way to warn us the best way that they know. Nonetheless, we must still learn to use intelligent communication skills.
I’ve already seen too many broken lives because unskilled adults didn’t take the time to listen, rethink, or look at the whole picture for those they were advising. However, they were just being nice! I wonder how long we need to reflect on our confrontations before we realize them as our greatest blessing to get more knowledge of the truth. The tides have changed, and I’m learning a little more street smarts and have better relationships than before, while remaining true to myself and others through His presence.
I brought this message below with gratitude from the National Catholic Register that was written April, 27 2010, which is the most powerful message that needs to be repeated with genuine love and truth, of our responsibility that we’re all in this together.
Pope Benedict XVI: Charity in Truth
"Charity in Truth," writes Buttiglione, sums up the central theme of Benedict's pontificate:
"The world of today wants a Christianity that is kind to everybody and is ready to take at face value whatever everybody wishes in terms of their fulfilment, the meaning of their life. It wants a Christianity that is ready to help everybody to reach their goals. But what they do not want is the Church to have an idea about the truth of man. They don’t want the Church to say to a drug addict: “Don’t do that; you’re destroying your life. This is wrong.” They want a love without truth.
The message of Benedict XVI is that true love is a passionate interest in another; a passionate interest that is aimed at the true happiness, true fulfilment of each individual human being. If you really love someone and see that he is destroying himself, you have not only the right but the duty to tell him he is doing wrong. And if you do not try to explain to him why it is wrong, if you don’t want to enter into a confrontation with him in order to convince him to save his own life, then you don’t really love him. This is the proper meaning of the word authority. Authority means you take responsibility to sometimes, if need be, say no. Our society suffers from a lack of authority. Parents do not feel authorized to say no anymore. And by the way, they don’t even know on which occasions they should say no because there is the idea that there is no objective truth."
Causes Catherine Nagle Supports
Westwind Foster Family Agency, Christian Children's Fund, Compassion International, Make-A-Wish Foundation, Invisible Children, Save the Children