Now that everything is blooming and green again, I realize almost half of the year has passed. It's time to review. What has become of resolutions I made in earnest at the start of the year?
One of my goals is to not react to petty annoyances. Half-check. Inspired by our Doga-practicing, mindful mutt Sam, I'm trying to view things and interactions that frustrate me as temporary. He lives in the moment. So can I. Imaging annoyances to be like toilet paper helps. I can choose to flush any irksome "it". Let "it" go. I've made some progress. But, I know I need to work on that resolution some more. Okay, (sigh) much more.
Another goal of mine is to be more tactful. That one I've been working on for years. There, too, I have more to do. I tend to be open-mouth-enter-leg-oops blunt. I've made some headway to move from:
Step 1: Think
Step 2: Speak
Step 1: Think
Step 2: Carefully choose words and tone that convey my intent
Step 3: Pause to consider how those words may be received
Step 4: Speak
For me, the longer process sometimes makes my brain motor feel like it is revving in neutral while ideas backup and emotions buildup. Thoughts impatiently want to speed ahead full throttle and blurt forth. The purpose of adding intermediate steps is to slow down. I realize I need to contemplate what and how I communicate.
When I consider how I want people to speak me, it is easier for me to try to be more tactful and thoughtful with others. I plan to take the rest of the year to practice.
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Mid-Ohio Food Bank
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