Recently, another member noted that receiving the invitation to write on the blog topic of the week always triggers the "I just want to be with you" response in her. She then found the urge to reciprocate irresistible, prompting the immediate writing of something in a blog, however unformed that "something" was.
Her honest if not "naked" sharing of this elemental human feeling made me realize that any time life presents us with such an invitation to basically "open up" is an extraordinarily exhilarating and memorable moment.
Perhaps most of us first experience such moments in our infancy with our loving parents and other caretakers. We almost instinctively detect their interest in us and find it instantly gratifying. We want to reach out in return and share similar feelings with them. I believe this behavior is what psychologists generally call "bonding".
Such bonding gives one a renewed and enlarged sense of "being" and of having a reason to exist. In my opinion, there is nothing remotely comparable to (1) sensing one is not only valued but actually "necessary" or needed, and, as an inevitable consequence, (2) discovering a purpose for one's existence. Moreover, what makes this purpose particularly credible and appealing is that it comes from one's own inner experience rather than having been impersonally given to us by some external source such as a religion or philosophical construct.
We can consider ourselves fortunate, indeed, for whatever "just want to be with you" moments we have in life. Infinitely rich and blessed is the person who can "measure out" his life in such epiphanies or exhilarating moments rather than, like an emotionally paralyzed J. Alfred Prufrock, in "coffee spoons" and lonely afternoons.
["Like a tedious argument.../lead you to an overwhelming question /Oh, do not ask "What is it?"/ Let us go and make our visit." ]
Causes Brenden Allen Supports