Carpe Diem Seize the Day
By Bernadette A. Moyer
A close friend said she learned this from me, Carpe Diem to seize the day! And I learned it from my first husband Randy Moyer who died when I was just 23 years old. It was in his dying that I was taught to live and to live fully. People and places will come and they will go from our lives, what we have is our life and in my living the desire to live my life to the fullest and best use.
What we know for certain is that not one of us will escape death, we have a limited amount of days here on earth, and the question is how do we want to spend those days?
“Waiting for the fish to bite or waiting for wind to fly a kite. Or waiting around for a Friday night or waiting perhaps for their Uncle Jake or a pot to boil or a better break or a string of pearls or a pair of pants or a wig with curls or another chance. Everyone is just waiting.” Dr. Seuss
I’ve never been good at waiting, I always wanted it now so I could move on to doing the next thing, whatever the next thing is and was for me. I tested out as a “project” person and not a “maintenance” person. Some people can just grind it out day after day, my thrill and my skills were about the heavy lifting. What could I do with what I had to move on to the next stage of growth and development. How could I keep challenging myself and continue to move forward. Waiting always seemed like death to me. Inaction is what I could and would do when I could no longer live and in my death.
Yesterday I celebrated my birthday, one of the best ones ever, the real take away though was my birth, my life and what do I want to do with what time I have left to live. Seize the day! Recently I accepted a new challenge in the workplace, a tab bit out of my element in location however the mission to support the most vulnerable of our society drives me forward. In my ability to use my writing skills, and to tell a compelling story in just a few weeks I wrote a grant. It won’t be the biggest grant request I have ever written, however it is one that will fill a need. Taking the day and a cause and our own skill set and using them to do well is what carpe diem means to me. It means use this time and this day to make a difference, however big, however small, make a difference in this day and in the world.
There are things in life I never thought would happen and they did and other things I never knew could happen and they happened too. Good things and bad things. I’ve learned to live life as though I was preparing a meal, what ingredients do I have and how can I best combine them to make something wonderful.
In Randy’s death and for my husband Brian, in his wife Stacey’s death, we both learned how to live fully. We celebrate everything! In the fall, it could be as simple as celebrating the abundance of apples by making apple pies. During the holidays like birthdays and Christmas it could be travelling to places that we love, like Nashville and Key West. We can watch a movie, read a book and have a conversation and be fully engaged and seize the day! It doesn’t have to be grand or be expensive, it is about taking what we have and what we know and making the most of it.
“The important thing is not how many years in your life but how much life in your years.” Edward J. Stieglitz
Dedicated to Joy Crimmins who uses her life to do so many good things for so many others and who inspired me to write this piece. Carpe Diem! The above photo was taken on the beach in Ft. Lauderdale, Florida on my birthday where I just “seized the day” in celebrating my life!