A Call to Ministry
By Bernadette A. Moyer
The Lord works in mysterious ways! When I was “called” to minister, it was because I wanted to unite loving couples in marriage. I love being married and have been with my husband for more than two decades now.
After a seven year stretch working for my Archdiocese, I learned many things and met many wonderful people doing really great works. I also met some of the most ungodly and unchristian people that I ever knew or could have ever imagined existed. It started to make sense to me why so many left the Church and organized religion. Over and over I heard comments like “all they want is money” or “I just don’t feel welcome there or connected there, we aren’t embraced.”
For me personally I have never believed that there is just one road to Heaven or that God has blessed just one faith as the supreme faith. Quite frankly any religious group that believes they are “supreme” “the only way” “the chosen ones” makes me really nervous and helps me to understand why there are religious wars. Wars that kill people in the name of “God” just doesn’t seem right to me or very God like at all.
When a dear friend said, “the people sitting in the pews will never witness what you did, or there wouldn’t be anyone sitting in those pews.” I knew that I was done. I had seen and I had witnessed far too much. Other friends have tried to keep me connected by saying, “they are just people, and they are not God.”
I don’t want to knock anyone that has faith or doesn’t have faith. I believe it is a personal relationship with God that matters most. It isn’t my place to judge how people practice their faith or even those that declare they have no faith in God.
A few years ago, I would never have believed that I would decide to become an Interfaith Minister. I just wouldn’t have felt good enough, but after seeing so many others with far less heart and soul and then with the call to serve, I knew that ministry was right for me. I am older, more mature, been through much. It was God that stayed with me when many others have let me down.
For years I have unofficially assisted with bereavement coaching. First it was for widows and widowers because I had been widowed and understood first-hand the grief process. Later it would be losing a daughter to estrangement. Now I help many other mothers with their experiences of pain and loss through estrangement. Having a real life point of reference gives me insight and knowledge. Helping others allows me to take what I know and what I learned and share it.
The greatest part of my ministry has been in officiating weddings. To celebrate a couple coming together and wanting to become married is the best job ever. I hate even calling it a “job” it is a calling and a vocation. I know what marriage is and what a gift it can be when we are married to the right person, being able to marry couples in love is an all-out honor for me. A real blessing!
I have a passion for living a God-centered life and a prayer filled life. I believe that people that are turned off by traditional church are because of the behaviors of other people and not God. We are not here to judge or to criticize we are here to learn and to love.
My ministry will always be about promoting love and acceptance, accepting all people, even those that don’t fall into a particular mold or definition. To me, God created all of us not just the self-appointed “chosen” ones.
Two years ago I read the Bible from cover to cover. I had much theology in my life and many classes throughout the years but this time it was in my time. My Bible is beautiful too. It isn’t black, white or any traditional colors. It is green and pink leather with a green background and pink flowers. It is like me, full of life and of color and not so traditional on the outside but very God centered inside.
The people that know me best say, “You are so accepting” and yes I am. I know what it feels like to be at the top of your game and I know what it feels like to be in the depths of despair. Life is rich that way. Most people are doing the best they can with what they have and what they know at any given time in their life. The people that I have a hard time with are the ones who openly set out to hurt and to destroy others, as much as I know that is a reflection of themselves and their own self-loathing I hope and pray that they learn to use that same energy to heal and to better themselves.
It takes but moments to destroy that which it takes years to build. I pray more and more each day and I pray for all the people. Let us make the choice to build rather than to destroy. It is always a choice.
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Love and light! Bernadette