What I Learned From My Husband About Being A Good Man A Great Husband and An Awesome Father
By Bernadette A. Moyer
What I learned from my husband is that there are good men who are loyal, kind, loving and supportive. If a man is good to his mother, he will also be good to his wife. My husband was always good to his mother. He used to drive to see her once every week and take her to the grocery store. When she was in the store shopping he waited outside for her until she was finished. He was there when she was dying and he held her hand as she passed over into the next life.
My husband taught me that real love isn’t flashy or showy, it is how two people treat one another when they are alone and no one else is looking. He taught me that if you don’t respect yourself, no one else will. He has shown me that patience and love go hand in hand.
He didn’t tell me about his character, he showed it when his first wife died leaving him alone to raise pre-mature newborn infant twins, a son and a daughter. Where most men might have fled the coop, he never once thought about leaving them even if that meant raising them as a single father.
He didn’t tell me that he was a stand-up guy who believes in “staying the course” and that “slow and steady wins the race” he showed it when he went to work for the same organization for 35 years and hasn’t called out sick not one time in over 15 years.
He didn’t tell me that he was an awesome father; he showed it every single day by loving and supporting his children and my child. He didn’t ever disrespect our kids even when they did things that weren’t in keeping with his moral code, values and his integrity.
He didn’t tell me that I could count on him, he showed it every day when he came home from work at the same time or called to say that he had to stay late. He always showed up for me. He showed me that yes we could have a fight, but if I needed him he would be there and that his love for me is and always was unconditional.
My husband is a stead-fast guy who is loyal and giving never wanting to see anything bad in the people closest to him. He is a quiet supporter who takes it all in, and a man of few words but when he does communicate it is worth listening to.
Our son calls him “salty” because he isn’t going to sweet talk anyone but tells it like it is and has really good radar about the character of other people. In 21 years there were only two people that I brought into our lives that he didn’t approve of and both times he was 100% correct. He knows inwardly who to let your guard down with and who to stay far away from.
My husband taught me that being a good man, a great husband and an awesome father is what you do for yourself because at the end of the day, the only judgments that really count are the ones between you and God.
Last week I was taken by ambulance to the hospital, I thought I was having a stroke, my doctor thought it was a heart attack, thank God it was neither. It was at this time when I looked at the foot of my emergency room bed and watched my husband standing there and I knew once again like I have always known, I married a good man who has been a great husband to me.
If it was the end of my life, this is the only person that I would want and trust making decisions for me. This is the guy that has loved me like no one else ever has or ever will. We are married, we are together and we are a team.
My husband taught me many things about what it takes to be a good man, a great husband and an awesome father and the number one thing is that you must be true to yourself. That you must show up and be there. No games, no pretense, no drama and that by doing the right things, and never intentionally hurting anyone else and by minding your own business and tending to your own life’s work that peace automatically comes as a natural by product.
As Father’s Day is near, I couldn’t be prouder of the man I love, the husband I have and the father our children were privileged to grow up with …
Happy Father's Day to all the good men out there!