By Bernadette A. Moyer
It is not enough to say “don’t have an abortion!” A teen unwed mother with no financial means and clueless as to what her future plans might be, is many times going to act on fear. When we hope to make an impact we must move from judgments and blame to solutions.
“If you are not part of the solution then you are part of the problem.” The second part of that quote reads; “but the perpetual human predicament is that the answer soon poses its own problems.” Sydney J. Harris
My friend Joy is part of a church that isn’t just saying “don’t abort” but they are also saying, we will help you with your pregnancy. You are not alone. We will help you with a supportive and loving community and with housing, food and your baby needs. We are pro-life and we mean it! How can we help you through your pregnancy and beyond? They are putting their actions behind their words.
"When the solution is simple, God is answering." Albert Einstein
Most successful businesses are successful not because they are problem free but because they are solution oriented. For them a problem is just another challenge and something to overcome.
So many of us in this society want to place blame and judgments, but what does that do to solve any problems? Identifying the problems is important as is seeking solutions. Blame is just a waste of energy with so real end game.
It can be so frustrating watching the news these days; I think we can all agree we have problems in this country. The frustration comes from what are we doing about them. My husband is always such a great sounding board for me, he will listen and listen and then ultimately he will respond with, “What are you going to do about it?” The implication is always the same that the power rests with me. That I can and should seek a solution and that it rests with me, if in fact it was my issue to begin with.
"Impossible only means you haven't found the solution yet." Anonymous
So the next time you are faced with a dilemma, ask yourself, “What are you going to do about it?” Seek solutions instead of blame and victimization. Seeking solutions is so empowering and healthy. View the obstacle as a challenge, there is always a solution. It might not be as obvious as we think but every problem affords us growth, change and the ability to seek answers.
There may be times when the problem isn’t even ours to begin with and therefore we aren’t tasked with the solutions. To that end, we must release it.
When at all possible avoid blame and victimization and seek solutions …
"We would accomplish many more things if we did not think of them as impossible." Vince Lombardi