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It's My Birthday! It's My Birthday!

It’s My Birthday! It’s My Birthday!

By Bernadette A. Moyer

Another year has passed us by, where does the time go? In a few days I will celebrate yet another birthday! I am reflecting back to my childhood birthdays, young adult birthdays, milestone birthdays like “sweet 16”, “18”, “21”, “25” and then “30”, “40” and “50.” They all meant something; there was a new phase to anticipate, a new era, and a different time.

My “50th” was my last big birthday and I had several cakes, parties and huge gifts! Literally a dear friend personalized a huge purple chair for me! It included significant people in my life, my dogs, my animals, my books, religion, ethnic background and more. Clearly it was a well thought out gift. I remember at least three birthday cakes that year.

Then there are other years you just want to fly under the radar. I clearly remember my 25th birthday and working really hard as a waitress, taking classes and I was already widowed and had a 4 year old daughter back then. I was sad and my mother knew it. I left her house after picking up my daughter who she was babysitting and headed to a local Chinese food restaurant. Just after we ordered our food, my mother showed up. She wanted to try and cheer me up, she knew that I wasn’t happy with where I was in my life and she didn’t want me to be alone.

When I look back I seldom remember the gifts I received, unless of course that huge purple personalized chair but what I recall are the memories and the people who loved me, celebrated with me and were there for me.

This year we are headed to Ft. Lauderdale, Florida to celebrate my birthday, my husband’s recent birthday and our wedding anniversary all wrapped into one celebration. It won’t be about the gifts, although my husband insists, but rather about creating new memories and celebrating good times with the people that love you and that you love right back.

Together we have aged and we have a greater sense of time and purpose; we know how we want to live out our remaining years. We reflect on what we have done with our lives and what do we still hope to accomplish. I have attracted so many wonderful Libra sisters through the years, female friends who share a birthday close to my own birthday.

My celebrations are like this phase in my life right now; they are quieter, more thought out and deliberate. There is an inner joy and smile that celebrates my life more internally and from a quiet peaceful place. There is much more grace in how I go about living.

I can see myself toasting on the private beach in Florida where we are headed this year, walking with my husband and enjoying our health and our age and our life together. And more than anything I am happy to be here, to be alive and to be making contributions to this world. Only God knows how many more birthdays I have left here on earth, but for now, it’s my birthday! It’s my birthday!