Anxiety – Do Not Go There!
By Bernadette A. Moyer
To avoid anxiety just don’t go “there!” “There” to the doctor or to the dentist to that job interview or to take that exam. Avoid the stressor that is causing the anxiety and problem solved! Right, just don’t go “there.”
It isn’t that simple though is it? We need to see the doctor, the dentist and how will we ever secure that new job unless we are willing to interview for it? That exam that we dread just may be the ticket to an elevated position on the job.
Then there is the good anxiety, the moments before we get on that airplane to our tropical destination or getting ready to attend that much anticipated concert. Our excitement is high, we are anxious and we are excited.
The trick seems to be how we manage our anxiety. The things we dread or are nervous about seem more difficult. We may not want to do them but have to go “there” to get ahead or to get well.
A few things that have helped me, take deep breathes, take a long walk; imagine the experience with the desired positive outcome. I remind myself how accomplished I will feel once I have gone “there” and completed whatever it was that was causing my anxiety in the first place.
Yesterday morning was an anxious one as my husband left for a huge state exam; he has been in class for a full year in preparation. Passing this state exam means a lot to him. He prepared well and was about as ready as anyone could be. I was thrilled mid-day when I heard from him. The test was over, he feels good about it and the results will arrive within six weeks. No more anxiety, well no more over this particular exam.
On this same morning I was headed out to my dentist to have some work done and yes I was anxious. Then I had a huge presentation concerning a new book project. My husband and I were equally as anxious but for different reasons and it all went really well. Brian made it through his anxiety and I made it through mine.
Anxiety doesn’t have to be a bad thing, it can be what helps us to prepare, and it also reminds us to be ready and to be alert. Our anxiety can reveal many things. It tells us that we are alive and feeling and present, we are aware that what is to come is anticipated, maybe dreaded but sometimes necessary.
So here is to handling whatever makes you anxious and knowing that much can be accomplished when we manage it, and when we get to the other side of our anxiety. Often this means we have completed something that is of value. We wouldn’t be anxious if it didn’t matter to us.