Alone at Heaven’s Door
By Bernadette A. Moyer
We enter this world alone and we leave it alone. From the rearview mirror what have we done with our life, what will be said when we arrive alone at heaven’s door. Most people have amazing relationships with their families, their parents, children, co-workers and friends. Our neighbors live along side of us but the truth is that when we exit this life, we shall be alone at heaven’s door.
As I age it becomes more and more important to side step the people that want to drag you into their war and their fight. We have to know ourselves and love ourselves. Loving ourselves isn’t just what we do for ourselves but what we do for the entire world. People that have self-love are not interested in hurting anyone. They have an inner peace, are content and happy.
It is really hard to watch the mother of the Boston bombings; she is in such denial over her two sons. For her to accept that they killed innocent people she has to own being the parent of two sons who committed multiple murders. You can see how shaken up and hurt and angry she is, it is easier for her to believe it is a set up. Her love for her sons and her denial is her coping mechanism. No one can convince her otherwise, she keeps saying that her sons were “loving sons” but clearly their actions were not of love.
Parents tend to see the best in their kids, they look at them with love and acceptance and often through “rose colored” glasses, but kids grow up to be adults and somebody somewhere has adult kids that are capable of murder, destruction and hatred. If not there would be no acts of violence in this world.
We bleed out for our children when they do and say things that are based on hatred rather than love, often parents become the target of that hatred. It can be easy to take it personally and get hooked into their cauldron of hatred. This is the biggest test of all, to know yourself well enough and side step anyone else’s desire to pull you into a place of rage, anger, hate and destruction.
When we arrive at the “pearly gates of heaven” and when we leave this life, it won’t be about what other people did or didn’t do to us. It will be about what we did or didn’t do. It can be so challenging being the object of someone else’s hatred but we must remember who we were before their hate and who we are after their hate.
Americans are hated by other countries just for how we live? We don’t ask others to live like us; we accept that each life comes with the freedom to choose how to live. I am struck by how some people can carry hate in their hearts for decades. How some can hate people they don’t even know and never even met.
It doesn’t matter what “they” do, it matters what we do! As human beings we can be angered and want to take revenge, “an eye for an eye” but what does that really accomplish? When we kill people who have killed people to show that killing is wrong, then we too become killers.
At the end of my life all I want is to know that I tried, that I did my best and that I operated from a loving heart. We all make our share of missteps in life. If we can fix it, fix it and if we can’t fix it, we need to leave it and let it go.
We arrive alone at heaven’s gate, we will be humbled in death and we need to remember that as we move along from day to day here in this life.
The question we should ask ourselves is, what we need, need to do within ourselves to maintain a loving and peace-filled heart. And not just when it is easy and going our way, but all of the time … because there will come a day when we alone will be standing at heaven’s door.