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Personal Boundaries

I watch Nancy Grace and marvel at the fierce love she has for her twins. I can visualize what she is like at home with her children: loving, devoted, and always with a watchful eye. I have been glued to the screen watching Nancy Grace's show on the Casey Anthony trial. Casey was a young mother without boundaries in place, which led to a child's life lost in a sea of chaos. 

As a child I would swim at the Coney Island seashore. The boundaries were clearly in place although the surf’s edge was continually changing around me. I had a responsibility to keep myself safe by not swimming out too far. I had to manage where I swam as I visualized an imaginary line in the waves. I could have easily been manipulated by the sea. Although I always felt safe knowing that both my mother and father kept a constant eye on me, I knew that it was my own imaginary boundary that kept me from drowning. What this experience can teach you is that you can visualize limits on things that might emotionally and physically cause you harm or at the minimum stress you out! Visualize margins on a page. What would the page look like if the margins were not there? Margins are boundaries that border the words and without them, the page would look cluttered. Think about what your own personal margins can do for you. Boundaries naturally protect you from harmful stress. You can also visualize a small switch on a wall that only you can regulate. You can adjust the switch throughout the day on how much stress you will allow into your space. This button keeps you mindful that although interruptions and disruptions are expected, you control how to deal with them.  

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Hi Barbara, I share the

Hi Barbara, I share the same sentiment as you with regards to boundaries. So important to be aware of how much one can take or how one can go, thus good to have imaginary boundaries. With two girls, the importance of setting boundaries for them is life saving! At a tender age, they don't really know or are not fully aware of how far they can go, should go or want to go. Our role as mothers is so important! Casey's mother's role in setting boundaries could have saved a life.... thank you for sharing this, a good reminder for me.

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Barbara Rubel, MA, BCETS, CBC

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Rina, Your two girls are lucky to have you as a mom! Barbara Rubel, MA, BCETS, CBC