As 2012 approaches, you may be focusing on your New Year's Resolutions. Perhaps you can take some time this holiday season to focus on your end of year regrets.
Because regret can be a major loss in your life, it's important to focus on how you reacted to it and consequences of it. Typically, regrets can happen in your personal life, environment, possessions, workplace and relationships.
One way to let go of regret is to recognize whether you are focusing on actions you did but wish you didn't or actions you didn't do but wish you did. As you problem solve, write down assumptions about the regret and focus on whether or not these beliefs are correct. Pay attention to your perception of how much control you believe you have over what happened.
As a specialist in traumatic loss, I have seen how people are so hard on themselves for things that they wish they did differently. Be tolerant of mistakes you believe you made as you let go of negativity and create positive self-talk. Challenge irrational thoughts with reality by creating a list of things you could have done differently based on what you knew at the time or what you know now.
It's no secret that it takes 21 straight days to create a habit. So, focus on self-soothing thoughtful activities that will minimize regret for 21 days in a row. If you reframe your thinking, at the end of that timeframe regret can become contentment.
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