Writers are fascinated by the mystery of love, by the profundity, by the power of love to take us to exalted heights or plunge us into great depths of despair. There's a fundamental paradox here -- in order to find love you must have a strong sense of your own self worth but once you find it you must be ready to surrender your self to the other. Love is perhaps the most profound emotion that we human beings experience over the course of a lifetime, from a child's adoration of his parents, to early romance, to a deeply dedicated and passionate marriage, to a love for one's children. Just to focus on romantic love since it's Valentine's Day . . . Most people tend to idealize romantic love and their lover, love affairs are so complicated but the first few weeks or months we are in a state of bliss, and that's the best time for most people, then comes the reality of a long-term commitment, and marriage means compromise and disappointment, and many people have trouble with this stage because their expectatins are unrealistic. If we are going to have a truly joyous marriage then we first of all have to find someone who is compatible, with whom we share common ideas and goals, and then we must keep the fire of passion burning brightly. Okay, so poets and writers celebrate love because of its beauty and its power to inspire us to rise above our self-centeredness and make sacrifices for the loved one, but conversely, many people fail to love because they cannot overlook the shortcomings of another person (they want them to be perfect!) and do not see their special individuality, their uniqueness and beauty, OR they simply cannot overcome their own selfish nature, their narcissicism. Or both.
-- from a media interview with the author, 2010
Causes Anthony Maulucci Supports
Greenpeace, Amnesty Inernational, American Cancer Society, Red Cross, Save the Children