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Fear of Dying

January 9, 2009, 6:09 pm

Jogging slowly around the track near the Claremont hotel, I got into a fierce argument with my friend Sally. Before I knew it, a faint feeling of nausea had developed into an inability to stand up and a terrific pain in my chest. Sally called 911 and an ambulance arrived minutes later. I guess I want to express my gratitude and tell people how lucky they are if they live within reach of Summit Hospital and have a heart incident. Before the ambulance door closed they had taken an EKG, given me 4 aspirin and 3 nitroglycerin and called ahead to have a team ready for me. I just got home a few hours ago after two days in the hospital. I  have only minor damage to my tissues as a result of their fast action. Within an hour of arriving at the hospital they had a diagnosis of coronary spasms--something I'd never heard of, and which is rare.  In addition to being grateful to all my doctors and nurses, I found I was intensely grateful just to be alive. The red and gold of the trees was more intense, my childrens'voices sweeter, the sunset merited a half hour of concentration on the pinks and blues. I'm sure I'll lapse but I made so many resolutions. Not to stress being the prim one. Especially not to stress about book matters, my tour, my readings, my reviews. Just don't. Live in the moment. Love what you hold close. Check in with me next month and see if I remember.

Ericka Lutz

Ericka Lutz says:

Oh Brenda!

So glad you're going to be okay! What a scary event.

Brenda Webster

Brenda Webster says:

fear of dying

Thanks Ericka and it made me realize just how quickly things can happen. How one minute you can be fine and the next struggling to breathe. I thought a lot about you and Bill after I felt better.

Belle Yang

Belle Yang says:

I'm going to say an obvious thing

You really don't know the joy of health until you've experience something like you did.  It's the same with all the good things we have in life.  Freedom of speech?  You don't know the stunning value of it until you've been muffled.

No, you won't forget.

Thank you for choosing between the two jackets.

Matthew Biberman

Matthew Biberman says:

best wishes

 I second Belle's thoughts and I'm glad to hear you got good treatment!!

Rosy Cole

Rosy Cole says:

The moment

Learning to 'live in the moment' is key to Life. It's always later than you think it is in one way or another. The twenty-first century tends to purvey the illusion that we're in control. Fact is, we're not. Health, wealth, privilege, education, political freedoms, don't have the power to change this. But living in the moment helps us to sort our priorities. It protects against losing those valuables we can take with us on our journey, whatever that signifies to different people and whether it is confined to this world or continues into the next.

I'm so glad all has turned out well for you and hope that fear, the real enemy, will be put in its place.

Jessica Inclan

Jessica Barksdale Inclan says:

who knew there were coronary

who knew there were coronary spasms to worry about!!  I'm so glad that you are okay, and the advice is good in terms of stress.  I hope you continue to be well and stress-free!

Best,

J

Jessica Barksdale Inclan www.jessicabarksdaleinclan.com

Brenda Webster

Brenda Webster says:

Fear of Dying

Thanks, Belle and Matthew and Jessica..and I certainly didn't know about coronary spasms either. Apparently only 2% of people with chest pains have it. In my case when the artery went into a spasm it blocked 80% of the blood flow. So even though it isn't a heart attack it can trigger one. And Belle, I'm sure that it is much the same with other things like freedom--a good point.