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Apr.12.2014
I lost my best friend, Peggy to cancer in December of 2009. Although it’s a wound that will never heal I feel her near me and speak to her often. As Jack Lemon said, “Death is the end of a life, not a relationship.” We were friends for almost 60 years, since we were children growing up, in a small...
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May.04.2013
A few years ago, I had a friend whose wife and daughter had both been child sexual abuse victims. One day he asked me, “If child sexual abuse is so prevalent maybe there’s nothing wrong with it. Maybe it’s just a normal part of civilization.” I looked at him as if he was crazy. Over the years, I’...
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Apr.13.2013
 One of the subject matters that shows up under my searches the most is “signs of abuse”. This is a complicated subject. I’ll start by illustrating what it was like for me. My father raped me when I was thirteen. Prior to that I was happy, confident, sassy, fun loving, close to my father since...
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Feb.24.2013
I am editing my memoirs, a manuscript I began twenty-years ago. My plan is to download it as a Kindle on amazon.com as soon as I get it copyrighted. Every time I begin working on it I find myself traveling back to the family life of an incest victim. Excerpts from my book illustrates what it...
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Mar.10.2011
One of the most difficult things in my recovery was having to actually say the words: "My father raped me when I was 13 years old." It conjured up, even in my mind, such yucky and uncomfortable visions that I wished there were a nice way to say it. But there wasn't and say it I did. What...
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Feb.05.2011
Years ago Charles Darwin mulled over a theory of evolution by natural selection – theidea that species evolve or disappear in response to natural selection, so that only the fittest survive. I read these words in a book about Archaeology, one of my many interests. But as normally happens in my...
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Jan.31.2011
If you were never abused as a child you no doubt automatically set up your own boundaries and had no problem doing so. When your mother told you to get ready for dinner and you were busy playing your favorite game the word, “No” popped out of your mouth.Your mom probably thought it was cute……..at...
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Nov.08.2010
Tammie, my second oldest daughter, called me today from The Smithsonian Museum in Washington DC. She was there with a group of other parents who are in training to take exchange students, her third year of doing it. We were on the phone for more than an hour. I've never been to The Smithsonian...
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Jun.15.2010
My husband and I recently journeyed back to a small farming community in northeast Nebraska (pop 380) to attend my class reunion.  Boone County is one of the loveliest spots in our nation.  Its pastoral scenes include rolling hills, in the summer covered with young plants of corn waving in a...
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May.09.2010
In the recent edition of Time Magazine, their special double issue of the 100 most influential people in the world, Edna Foa, age 72 from the University of Pennsylvania was featured.  She has developed a therapy known as prolonged exposure, or PE. Although it works with any PTSD (post traumatic...