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Apr.06.2013
I have been working in the field of child sexual abuse and incest for several years now. Over the course of time, I’ve met many others who are also working in this field. I would like this blog to be a THANK YOU to all of you who have been so diligently helping to end this scourge. I...
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Jul.21.2012
Today was our local Lamplighter Meeting. We hold it at the Public Library once a month from 10:00 am to Noon. I’ve been doing this for five years. When I first started out I had an interview with the local radio station regarding the meetings, an interview in the local paper, I mailed announcements...
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Jun.17.2012
One of the most insidious repercussions from child sexual abuse is the harm done to the family of the victim. It is widespread, indirect and unforeseen. The sister sleeping on the top bunk who is awakened by screams and mattress noises, and as a result of her terror later becomes afraid to do...
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Mar.31.2012
April is Child Abuse Prevention month and the blue ribbon is their symbol. If you have a Facebook page, please put the blue ribbon as your icon for the month of April. It will go a long way towards heightening the awareness of child abuse. And.......please wear a blue ribbon. Our children are our...
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Jul.23.2011
I can easily travel back in my mind to that dark November night when my world shattered, drove me to my knees with fear and shame, guilt and despair. At the age of thirteen I was more like a child of nine. Our folks were very strict and did what they could to make sure we, as mom used to put it,...
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Apr.03.2011
Several years ago I asked my family doctor how many families are dysfunctional. His reply: "They're all dysfunctional", surprised me. It doesn't surprise me now. In the opening pages of my book, REPAIR Your Life: A Program for Recovery from Incest & Childhood Sexual Abuse I mention...
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Mar.26.2011
I’m fortunate. I hate trying to control people. I have enough trouble controlling my own life. I sometimes say that when my kids reached their teens I let them raise themselves. After my divorce, here I was a single parent, no clue how I was going to handle this, not only financially but just in...
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Mar.10.2011
One of the most difficult things in my recovery was having to actually say the words: "My father raped me when I was 13 years old." It conjured up, even in my mind, such yucky and uncomfortable visions that I wished there were a nice way to say it. But there wasn't and say it I did. What...
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Oct.06.2010
The word “patriarchal”conjures up the picture of a white haired, kindly old man with a lined face, a father figure who is wise, spiritual and compassionate, a “venerable old man”. The term patriarchal has two sides. The positive side:” Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we had someone that could handle...
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Jul.25.2010
As the founder of The Lamplighters, an international movement for recovery from incest & childhood sexual abuse, I receive many emails from people who were sexually abused as a child telling me of what happened to them. Some of their stories are so horrific that I have a hard time reading them...
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